You’ve been here for a while. Have you learned the tools that we teach here? You say all your strategies have failed and things haven’t improved? You are hesitant to leave, yet that’s your plan now. You fear things getting worse after your son leaves the house.
What are your considerations about leaving?
What are your worries about staying?
Can you imagine things improving with counseling?
Setting boundaries does not work - it only causes rapid acceleration. I would need to leave the house and drive away and come back 2 days later as a sanction and I'm not prepared to do that. She is prepared to go to extremes to enforce her will. She has me beat there and she knows it.
My worries about staying is its pretty much futile - its not the life I want.
Going will be tough because I know she will resort to threats etc to get me to return.