Hard to understand

[Hardtounderstand]

I am a mother of a 17 year old and our relationship has gone from great to worse.  We can not communicate without a massive blow up.  It seems the harder I try the worse it gets.  I want her to know how much I love her and how proud I am of her.  It is killing me to not be able to help her.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[GaGrl]

Welcome! We are thankful you have posted. There are many members of this forum, and specifically on this topic, who can provide help and support -- so many have walked the same path.

What is your primary concern right now? What is causing you the most stress?

[Only Human]

Hello and Welcome, Hardtounderstand!

You have come to the right place to learn about BPD and how to improve communication with your daughter. Your relationship was great and now it's not-so-great. That must be heartbreaking.

We are all learning together here, and we are glad you've joined us. Please share more, as you feel comfortable, so we can get a good idea of how we can best advise you. In the meantime, please have a look at this post, pinned to the top of the board - it's got many of our best articles with links to many more:

HOW TO GET THE MOST OUT OF THIS SITE.

You are not alone, we get it better than anyone else can. Things can get better

~ OH

p.s. I see GaGrl was posting as I was. She's right! There are many of us here who want to help.