I´m pretty sure her lawyer will bill her, this is according to the law of this country I live in. Also, she took a loan of approx 9000USD just a month ago (she was in kinda paranoid mania state) with having any only little income (bank was stupid most likely to grant her that), and according to my country law she will be responsible for her own loans, I was very relieved to find this out. She spent that on the rental apartment and furniture, where the landlord now want to kick her out since she understands how mentally sick she is. She always gets in that kind of troubles when leaving me. But this time I am staying out of this drama.
My wife is now in a psychiatric hospital with heavy delusions for more than two weeks, she is with Jim Carrey and completely lost sense of reality. She never has gone that far... So her lawyer is waiting for her to get better. They may/can be also accusing me of DV, but that will be the separate case and I will have a criminal lawyer provided for free. In our country, many lawyers are interested in pushing the client to do it, since there is a lot of legal money and interests behind it. My wife did this already last year, I was in the police, but after more than 6 months prosecutors dropped the case since they could not provide any single proof, and I had taken my wife back after she said how sorry she was for doing that. Not the best move, I know, but shouldn't we forgive if we see some repentance?
at least from then I was extremely careful when having intimate relationships with her since I know that later she can use the child as weapon, so I always protected myself. Thanks to God, that we are child-free or I would be probably facing child-abuse accusations on top... plus custody nightmare. When she goes black, it is VERY BLACK. She destroys my reputation to so many people and has a capability of distorting reality to incredible lengths. Then she comes back and doesn't understand why she did it, she just said she was having strong emotions, but that I had done nothing wrong to her! It has happened at least 10 times already. I always forgave her, because I hope I had a good heart.
So that's where I stand now. It is a very complex situation now. I still care about her, but I had made the decision that I cannot tolerate her behaviors anymore. So I want to be at least legally separated. But that will not be possible most likely before she comes out of her psychosis. And knowing her, she can beg me to take her back after she comes out from hospital, but I am firm in the resolution I won't do it. I had reached my breaking point after 8 years of being together. We had divorced once already two years ago after her mom died, but I took her back and we got married for second time
Only on the second day after our second marriage, she changed completely and became very verbally abusive.
I should have been smarter, but at then I still thought that I am mostly to blame, she had tricked me into thinking that for more than 6 years, while in reality that wasn't the case, I had become a very responsible and loving husband... but I was still young back then, in my 20'ties and wanted to do best I could for my marriage so I took my guilt for most of the things. Now, this has been changed dramatically and I cannot anymore agree on all those crazy false accusations she throws at me when she dysregulates. It has become worse and worse, so that is why I need to protect myself and let her take her own responsibility for her actions instead of fixing everything for her after she makes false moves. It is scary because she is so destructive when alone, that she can become very suicidal, but I have already accepted the fact, that I cannot save her, because she will always view me as oppressor if I try to correct her and make our life more stable. I hope she will somehow find a motivation to start working hard on her issues and drop her deeply rooted victim mentality (that would be a true life miracle, I tend to believe that will never happen, at least not in long run), but I cannot be part of that at least in any near future, because I had almost lost my own health, finances, I had to quit my job, giving everything from me to combat her illness, it was way stronger than I am. It was like fighting with an elephant. Just impossible to win, so I let it go
That was a bit off-topic, I guess... But I just felt I will put that out for context.
