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Who in your life has "personality" issues: Ex-romantic partner
Relationship status: Divorced
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« Reply #30 on: November 15, 2019, 10:05:01 PM »

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It would be wonderful if your partner would go to therapy with you, but please remember that you also need support for just you- you need a safe space where you can speak freely about what is going on in your relationship (besides here- somewhere in real life with an objective counselor with training).

I'm sorry she found the emails. I am sure that made things worse. It sounds like your sister may not be able to support you emotionally through this, however, because she is unable to be objective- and that's okay. Obviously she cares for you.

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« Reply #31 on: November 17, 2019, 09:32:28 PM »

Yes, it would be good if she went along to therapy with me. I have been seeing the same therapist for the past six years. He suggested we both go and see him within the past year. We have done so twice I think. Also, my partner has seen him once by herself. Surprisingly to me, she really likes him. Idealy I would like to see him alone and have somebody else to see with my partner, but in light of the way things are right now, he might be the best option. I could make an appointment for this week.

We just had two pleasant days together, followed by two very difficult days. I think we both managed to find some middle ground by the end of each of these days which is an achievement for us! My partner is feeling down again today and says she will be out of my life soon. She is looking at a place to rent this week which I kind of hope she takes. I don't really want her to go, but I think it might be best in the short term that she has her own space. I feel sorry for her and would like to help, but at the same time I am very worn out and could do with a break.

Yesterday I mentioned that we might both benefit from reading The High Conflict Couple. She ridiculed it at first, but after I read a few reviews online to her, she fell silent and didn't say she would not be open to the idea. Small steps at a time I guess...
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