Difficult daughter raging at parents

[Quincy]

We feel very alone when dealing with our daughter. She is high functioning so we take the brunt of her rages, insecurities and sadness. It would be helpful to connect with others who understand our angst and confusion.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[FaithHopeLove]

Hello Quincy
Welcome to the parenting support group. You have come to the right place to connect with people who understand what you are going through with your daughter. Many of us, myself included, are sometimes the target of our children's rage. The rage comes from their own pain not necessarily our actions so there is no reason to take it personally. Still it does hurt. What do you and your spouse do when your daughter rages at you?

[Manifest32f]

Hi Q: I join the others in welcoming you to this post and the wonderful website where you will find ample information and great support! We are all in similar situation and we try and understand what you are going through and give you the support you need and validate your concerns. My undBPDd is high functioning professional who shreds meto pieces when she is going through her emotional roller coaster which is almost on a regular basis. My H & I very recently decided to move away and leave her to manage on her own which turned out quiet ok. We came to spend some time with her and will be leaving in 3 weeks and as the day is approaching, her angry outbursts are overwhelming us. We try to stay quiet and let it pass only to find her overcompensating for her bad behavior in a couple of hours. But her actions hurt and I keep mulling over it and feeling very upset and unappreciated for all the sacrifice we have made. I have to keep reminding myself that she is in pain and she only has us to vent. Our children are wonderful people who are extremely sensitive and don’t know how to overcome their pain in a healthy manner and lashing out is their only way. When we are gone, who will they turn to, is my nagging worry. Please take care of yourself and do something to get the self care you deserve and need. You have to be strong since it’s a long and painful journey ahead.