So thankful to have found this group

[Parents! Get help here!]

SO happy to have found this site...just beginning our journey with my 19 year stepson (who has shown BPD traits for many years and was recently diagnosed...) My husband and I are at our wits end...and emotionally drained. Just reading other people's stories is helpful. What should we do first? suggestions?

[sadstepmom2019]

SO happy to have found this site...just beginning our journey with my 19 year stepson (who has shown BPD traits for many years and was recently diagnosed...) My husband and I are at our wits end...and emotionally drained. Just reading other people's stories is helpful. What should we do first? suggestions?

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Panda39]

Hi sadstepmom2019,

Welcome to the group    I'm on a short break at work but did want to stop in and say hello

You are not in this alone everyone here has someone with BPD or BPD traits in their lives we "get it".  If you are like me when I first arrived here I was amazed at how similar our stories can be.

Here is a link on "How to get the most out of this site" just click on it to read more...
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=331689.msg13020067#msg13020067

Can you tell us a little bit more about your family...How long have you and your husband been together? How old was your step-son when you came on the scene?  Do you have other children in your household?  What are you finding most challenging when it comes to your SS19 (stepson 19)? 

I hope you will continue to post, I have found this site and it's members to be very helpful and think you will too.

Hang in there 
Panda39

[FaithHopeLove]

Hello SadStepmom
I join Panda in welcoming you to this amazing group. We are glad you are here. You asked what to do first. The answer is self care. You have a long journey ahead and you will need to be strong. Coming here and writing your first post was a big step in the right direction. What else are you or could you be doing to care for yourself?
Hugs
Faith