Divorced daughter in her 50’s can’t acknowledge she has BPD.

[Evermom]

She has many failed relationships.  Has seen many therapists, but quits when they try to have her see her part and take responsibility.  We were estranged for 5 years.  Reconciled, but I worry.  Has no relationship with her younger sister, who can’t deal with her issues any longer.
   I worry that my older daughter is very lonely and isolated. She needs to get a job.  Needs the income ( child support stops in a year or so), and needs socialization.  Her difficulties cause problems with her teenage children.  She is devastated by being abandoned by her husband, and ashamed to see old friends.
    I am seeing a skilled therapist who is supporting and educating me through this situation. He recommended getting more support through this kind of site.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[FaithHopeLove]

Hello Evermom and welcome you to the group. I am glad your therapist recommended us. I am very sorry to hear about the challenges your daughter is facing. Relationships can be so hard for people with BPD. She is fortunate to have you. How can we best support you as you try to support her?