pain because of estrangement from BPD adult child

[Healing Balm]

Just want to introduce myself, new here. Hoping to find support from other parents that have an adult child they are estranged from with BPD.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Welcome! 
I hear you about the pain.  I was forced to get a restraining order from my 25 year old son last March after he became violent with me .  In addition to BPD he is dual diagnosed with substance abuse and I suspect a mood disorder as well.    I hate that I had to do it, but he crashed through every boundary I put up .  The guilt is excruciating at times.  There are others here who can chime in as well. Maybe you can read up on my story/ posts ( very long story to get into here).  In addition, you are not alone.  Look at the "tools" tab and read up on BPD through the suggested readings in the library here. 

[FaithHopeLove]

Welcome Healing Balm. You have come to the right place for help and support. I am also estranged from my 25 year old BPD son. He also suffers from drug addiction and is in serious legal trouble that may result in a prison sentence. Sometimes it is easier to blame me than look at himself. But I still love him and hope for better days. What do you feel comfortable sharing about your child?