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Have the kids been able to verbalize directly how they feel, what they experienced?
No they havent, but I have not asked either. Perhaps that is why I was at peace when I did read cps report.
My 2 oldest have been a different story. They are both in college and oldest stopped speaking or coming over when he turned 18. I would reach out to him by regular snail mail and text . Just 6 weeks ago he told me to stop texting him as he did not want to have any relationship at this time. He said he had to be to pick up the slack when I left. He said he did not have a childhood and does not remember what it feels like to be happy. I see that Mom made him the new 'dad' and her new confidant when I left. He has 0 respect for me and seems to be an extension of exwifes anger. He acts out her anger of me.
Daughter in college stopped coming when she was 18. These oldest 2 were always exwife favorite. Daughter let mom deciden that I could not come to her quinciera or graduation party. No wonder my daughter told me that I would never see her children or be invited to her wedding. She also has a very entitled and outwardly disrespectful demeanor towards me.
Neither of them ever lived with me post divorce more than a 12 hour period at my house. So they have not seen Dad be the parent I always wanted to be. Before I would allow exwife to dictate the amount of time I spent with them..
Do you see positive changes in your children in the past 6 months that they have lived with you since their mother gave up all her rights?
Absolutely! My 13yr old was the worst of the youngest 5. She would not speak to anyone in my family, nor any mutual friends of my ex who still maintained a friendship with me. She also would not talk to her aunt (her moms sister) because her aunt kept friendship with me also. Anyone mom hated, my daughter hated as much... including me. I put her in therapy with the same therapist that
did custody Eval as soon as I had legal rights in August. The 13yr old admitted to calling CPS on me... the one case that just got unsubstantiated. It was called in after 13yr spent 3 hours with mom .
If we were at 0 percent in relationship trust before, we are at 75 percent now.