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« on: March 15, 2020, 06:58:00 AM »

Hi All,

I want to say a big thank you here in the community. I have learned a lot from you and these lessons helped me win my restraining order court case.

My ex BPD girlfriend with whom I have a child filed a fraudulent domestive violence and child abduction case against me as a way to gain sole custody. She also systematically withheld the child from  me.

Luckily, I documented all past communication and hired a lawyer. I prevailed in Court and shortly before trial was to start she gave up her case and offered me joint custody
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« Reply #1 on: March 15, 2020, 10:04:13 AM »

I am so very glad to hear that you prevailed! That is WONDERFUL news.

I know it is very difficult to document and remain calm and deliberate while in an emotional situation. You did that, and your child will be in a better place because of it.

Do you anticipate further issues with your ex?

How is the joint custody working so far?
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« Reply #2 on: March 15, 2020, 02:09:29 PM »

I do not anticipate any big issues anymore because this court case she filed is a blessing in diguise. The parenting plan resolves all the key issues we were fighting about. I pay the proportionate reasonable child support via echecks with documentation on my bank statement.

Now I don't have to chase her many times to agree on things or get the child. We have a detailed pareting time schedule and we are to communicate only in writing and use the Talkingparents app.

Basically, the case saved me all the drama. If there is repeated drama it is easy to copy it from the app and show it to the court as contempt. Since we are also using the app she is very calm and behaving the right way as the app provides court admissible evidence which can be notarized by the app company.

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« Reply #3 on: March 17, 2020, 04:33:53 AM »

Hi KingofTexas37891, congratulations! This is very encouraging to me. I also plan to soon take my BPDw to court in some form or another and she will almost certainly launch some kind of false abuse campaign in response. I, like you, however, have well documented all of our communication over the past few years. She could have no such record since I have only been reasonable and children-focused in all of our communication.

Good luck as things move forward!

All the best
~Roland
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