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This is my first post. I sort of have a child with BPD. She isn’t technically related to me, but she lives in my house. She also isn’t technically a child (she’s 21). I am wondering if there are any strategies for persuading a BP to do the right/safe thing. With the Coronavirus concerns, I’m having trouble persuading her to act in a safe manner. This is concerning, not only for her, but because my husband and I have medical conditions that’s put us in the high risk category.
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Pufferdoodle
and welcome
That is a difficult situation, your adult daughter not listening, following rules to keep you safe. What's happening?
If that was my daughter I'd tell her it's time to find somewhere else to stay at this time, if she is unable to keep me safe. Can you do that?
You come first
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She did end up listening to me, but she had a fit about it. She’s not actually related to me. She’s a friend of my daughter’s. I took her in because her family & old friends are very triggering. She hadn’t had a diagnosis until she moved here because I got her a neuropsych eval. The issue is that when I say it’s dangerous to spend a weekend with her old friends (who are a bunch of slovenly drug addicts), she doesn’t understand how that endangers me. She’s not terribly bright and she’s used to throwing a tantrum to get her way and she’s having a hard time adjusting to her new situation where that strategy doesn’t work for her.
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