Lies

[GGmom]

My daughter is in her 2nd marriage which is just 2 years.  During the 2 years, she has told me her marriage is over continuously.  The 2nd time, she kicked him out for 6 weeks and begged me to help her financially.  I did.  On the last day of the 6 weeks, he waltzed back in, and they acted to me like nothing happened.  Her recent episode was during COVID.  She was having a melt down because her husband is essential, and he was daily bringing the virus in her house to her kids.  She told me via text (her favorite way to communicate), that he was looking for a place to live and he was moving out permanently.  I offered to let him stay in my condo (2nd home) to help them financially.  They immediately took me on the offer, and they are still together on weekends.  I got snookered again!  How do I approach her about this? I only get her side of the story, not his. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi GGMom and welcome,
I really hear the frustration in your words ( rightfully so!).  Yes your daughter and son in law are enmeshed with each other.  I  just want to make sure I understand the situation.  The SIL stays with you during the week but then goes back to daughter on weekends?  If this is the case, perhaps you can ask him when he's with you  about his side of things.  From there you can have more info on how you'd like to proceed.