My 14 yr old daughter has recently been diagnosed pretty much w bpd

[Woohoo]

 :help:I dont know even where to begin the dont care whatever ur drama i hate you leave me alone doesnt take accountability never wrong wont talk wont have a cuvil conversatuon treats us with no respect t whats the bigbdeal has rages physical ones been in two facilities outpatient I don't want to be around here indont want her here i love her i want to leave but cant im exploding inside me and my husband but 95 per is at me all her anger and wants to be emancipated for the last 2 years. I am literally trying not to drink pls help no one in our life has any idea how bad it is thanku for reading

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Woohoo]

she also is a cutter done drugs has sex overdosed once i am so lost and losing hope thanku

[yaneznayu]

I am definitely not an expert, but some basic lessons from parenting a teenager with BPD-like symptoms:
* if you need to, call 911.  in case you are in danger, or she is a danger to herself.
* take care of your basic needs.  get enough sleep, eat helpful foods, etc.
* keep lines of communication open with your husband.
* reach out to your support system.  this group is good.  if you need real-time support, check out NAMI.  they have virtual support groups during Covid-19 lockdown.  will probably resume in-person support groups after restrictions are eased.

You are not alone.  Sad fact is that there are many parents going through or have gone through similar situations.