feeling trapped

[milomisty]

Hello,This is my first post.
I have just read "Stop Walking On Eggshells" which was great. My daughter(20) has BP and her mood swings dominate the household to the point where her 2 siblings want to move out. This is very sad for me as when things are smooth all is good. At times I feel socially trapped by her as I don't go out if I know she will be home on her own. My social life is non existent as she has no friends so expects me to always be there for her.
Sometimes I feel like she knows how to manipulate us. I am tired of the emotional rollercoaster.
Does this sound familiar to anyone? I would like to hear from you if you have a similar situation.
Even tonight I was going to bed to read and she got annoyed because she would have to go to bed as she didn't want to sit alone in the loungeroom.So the I feel guilty and trapped that I can't do something I enjoy.
Sounds like a whinge but I am feeling frustrated and stressed at making the situation a calm happy place for us all at home not just her.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Dimpy]

I feel for you as we are in the same boat.  Completely isolated and with no support. 
Never know when a simple thing can rock the boat and lead to a storm.
It is exhausting and frustrating to say the least.  Even when one implements the right language,
the right validation, it may never be enough.  It is a tough ride.

[Modesty68]

Hi there! Oh yeah, I can totaly relate! In addition to the BPD my d has a eating disorder, that makes us eat just the food she is able to eat, and exact at 7 every night. Oh boy, where did my life go 
Fortunately, after about 9, she goes to her room and stay there.
Well, I think I just feel bad when I am having a good time, as long as I know she is having a bad time. I know the books are saying that we have to set boundaries and also do things for ourselves. But that is so hard!
I have signed up for the zoom-version of Family Connections course. I look so forward to it! There are also a lot of books to read. I have read Valerie Porr's book: Overcoming Borderlina Personality Disoder, and I really recommend it.
Stay safe!