Sad and confused

[languid-mudflaps]

Hello,

This isn't a question. I don't know what this is.
My adult daughter (24) hates me. She has made it her mission to destroy me (her words). No matter how hard I tried for her, her verbal and physical abuse grows. She is also trying to get me dismissed from my job and wants to see me homeless.
Why?
I'm sure I do not need to go into all the ways I have tried to support her over the past 10 years. Including being the only parent who didn't abandon her. sometimes helping her has had serious consequences for me... but I wouldn't care if only it made a difference.
im worn out. I have had to stop all contact and now, due to her behaviour I am getting a restraining order to make her please leave me alone. She has left me no choice.

But, I hate this. I love her so much yet I know this is the right thing to do.

I dunno where this post is going.
It all hurts so much.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[wendydarling]

Hi languid-mudflaps

It sounds like you've come to a personal cross road, as you say your daughter has left you no choice and verbal and physical abuse grows. You know this is the right thing to do and it hurts so much. LM I'm wondering what local support you have, you've been through a lot. Are you in therapy, counselling? It is confusing cos it's conflicting you love your DD and you've tried everything and it's time to put you first.

I'm glad you are here with us, you are not alone  

WDx

[Swimmy55]

Hi L-M
You are doing the right thing, no question.  Preservation of life always comes first. It hurts to put these boundaries in place, but the alternative is unacceptable. You have done all you could humanly do.  Take care of you . Click onto my story when you have a chance. 

[Football2000]

I am so, so sorry you are going through this. It really sounds heartbreaking. I think no matter how badly someone is suffering, helping them only makes sense if they are willing to put in at least a small pinch of effort. If there is just no effort at all on their part, then what can we do? People need to realize that a relationship has responsibilities on both parties.

I hope you can find enough stuff to do for yourself to get you through this hard time. Continue to post here and talk to people who love you, if you can.

[Swimmy55]

I agree.  Helping them to get help is one thing ( when they allow/ ask for it) .  Helping them to keep on keeping on with abuse , threats, sickness...no.  Just no.