Although she spoke of how much she loved me, she seemed bent on pushing me away.
Have you read the book, "
I Hate You! Don't Leave Me!" by a recovered pwBPD?
On the second day of our honeymoon it started again but much worse then before. She was extremely angry with me because I was standing in line at a store next to a young woman.
Likely it got worse then because you had just become
obligated to her through the marriage. In other words, she considered you stuck with her.
I recall an instance when I was stopped at a traffic light and and older lady walked in front of us in the crosswalk. My then-spouse got so upset. It got to the point that I automatically avoid looking at women, of any age.
My sisters and close friends are encouraging me to end the marriage and I think I'm ready.But I know she will refuse to leave! Its my condo but she has taken ownership of it and also my life.
Will it get any easier to end the marriage if you wait? Okay, that a rhetorical question. But I ask because you find it hard to admit taking the pain of action now could be better than living years of pain and then finding it even harder then to end it. I would imagine seeking a divorce or some sort of annulment or dissolution would be much simpler after two months than at a future time when your finances would have become even more entangled and your will power and joy of life sapped even more.
Pain now or even more pain later?