Help Can I survive?

[Parents! Get help here!]

I'm 67 yr old and currently taking care of three of my granddaughters. 22 yr old is on the autism spectrum, high functioning, but will never be independent. 14 yr old is in the process of recovering from sexual abuse by a family member. The child who may be BPD is 21 yr old and diagnosed as bipolar. I will be discussing this with her therapist in several weeks. She is the one who disturbs the stability of our home. I love my girls and don't know what to do to keep us all together. Where do I even begin?

hsnana24

[hsnana24]

I'm 67 yr old and currently taking care of three of my granddaughters. 22 yr old is on the autism spectrum, high functioning, but will never be independent. 14 yr old is in the process of recovering from sexual abuse by a family member. The child who may be BPD is 21 yr old and diagnosed as bipolar. I will be discussing this with her therapist in several weeks. She is the one who disturbs the stability of our home. I love my girls and don't know what to do to keep us all together. Where do I even begin?

hsnana24

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Preservation of life and safety is a good first step.  Do you / others feel safe in the house / are you / anyone else in the house afraid of your 21 yr old grand ? 

[Sancho]

Is it just you carrying the load?