Re: bpd daughter inability to maintain friendships

[Gee gee]

Hi my 22-year-old daughter has been making and losing friendships for over 10 years now that she's an adult it's getting harder and harder for her to deal with. It seems that every friendship she has ends .. most often she cuts people off completely if things are not going well I know this is a symptom of her Bpd coupled w anxiety and depression...my biggest thing is I just don't know how to respond when she tries to talk to me about what's happening ...I seem to never say the right thing and she always ends up turning on me in an angry rant I'll take any advice I can get

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[PearlsBefore]

On a topic like this, I don't think advice is likely to help (though I understand the urge); it will be a lifelong affliction no matter the advice that's given...so to her mind, and perhaps realistically, the best you can offer is to learn how to help her feel validated, avoid depressed slumps and rebound quickly into newer friendships.

[BPDD]

Just continue to encourage her to make meaningful connections and highlight the value of those connections and the positivity that they bring to her life when they are present.