Where do I start?

[mhb2012]

My adult daughter has admitted herself for a 4th time this year for a "medication adjustment".  They finally diagnosed her with BPD even though that was what they really felt she had when she was 14, but diagnosed her with depression and anxiety.  How do we set boundaries?  We can't afford to pay any more hospital bills, her car payment or anything else.  She won't keep a job, and is living with her sister right now.
I am so angry, frustrated, scared, unsure, and the list goes on and on

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[kitty1961]

Hi,
Seems as though we have the same daughter. Mine has been in and out of hospitals since she was 13.
Its as though it may be a where they feel the most comfortable and safe.

Setting boundaries  is so hard with this diagnosis, I find myself getting "sucked in" to her situations all the time.
I say to myself she didnt ask to be born, I must help her.

Mine just moved back home and has not worked since she was 20 (now 33).
It is obvious to us she can not manage on her own.

I'm not sure where you are located but I was able to get my daughter medicare/medicade so there is no charge for hospitalizations.

How old is your daughter?

[Sancho]

Just picking up on what Kitty said re hospitals etc.

Is your daughter admitting herself to a private hospital and you have to pay the full cost? Does she have to go through a GP or specialist, or does she just turn up at A and E?

I notice many people on this board talk of the cost of hospitals etc and I don't really understand how the health system works in different countries.