FFw and "Betty" (not real name) have been teaching together for several years. They were at one school together and became friends. Betty moved to a different school for one year and the next year FFw moved to that same school. Partially to teach again with Betty..partially because Betty validated it was a better school...easier population to deal with ..etc etc.
I would say that 70% of their relationship is "friends" and then 30% is "frenemy", where it appears Betty was looking out for Betty and tosses FFw (and all other teachers) under the bus.
Due to population shifts...they are reducing first grade by 1 teacher at FFw school. FFw was convinced they would "get rid of her". Turns out they moved someone else.
Then the issue of moving classrooms came up. FFw put "dibs" on a classroom and that seemed to hold for a while, until the list came out. Betty was going to that classroom that FFw was "penciled in" to go to the classroom of the lady leaving 1st grade.
FFw was now convinced that this was a setup so that it would appear FFw "got rid of" the teacher leaving first grade.
So...FFw finds another teacher that she could swap with..and sets up the swap, yet 90% of her conversations are about how Betty "went behind her back" (appears accurate to FF). Yet...FFw doesn't want to be "one of those complainers" so she isn't going to principal about Betty going behind her back.
OK..this has been going on for a week or two.
Yesterday
The texts start coming in asking who I'm "talking to/with" about FFw...then in an interesting twist FFw says "other than your psychologist"
Let's take a BPDfamily pause here and celebrate...
Used to she would rail about the horrors of the psychologist...who is now a "given"...now she is after "who else"
She is convinced that Betty is hearing all the details of FFw and FFs intimate conversations from someone at church.
Umm...I don't think Betty goes to our church...
So...this morning...FFw asks me directly "who else". I said no/nobody three times and then out of frustration asked..."like what?" and "for example"
FFw goes "now you are being evasive"
FF: "Listen..I don't do triangles. I'm completely lost in this conversation. My answer is no."
Brief argument by FFw about how she isn't talking about triangles..I don't engage.
She then asks "why I couldn't just say no". I answered once. "I said no three times..it didn't seem to answer your question, so I'm trying to clarify what is going on."
Cue a weird recollection from FFw about the three no statements to which I responded "We recall differently...this conversation doesn't seem productive."
She leaves for work, forgets something...comes back in asking why I'm locking the door and trying to keep her from finding out who I'm talking to about her. (I don't engage..she leaves for work)
What a mess
Best,
FF