The misery olympics

[Grieving Mother]

Hello there,
I have a 14 year old daughter who has - after nearly 2 years of uncontrolled symptoms regardless of therapy, medication, hospitalizations, and multiple mental health programs - finally been formally diagnosed with BPD.  She is now in a therapeutic boarding school in Utah (which she asked to attend out of fears of not being able to keep herself safe).  This has been the most devastating season of my life.   I feel so alone, scared, and as though this unremitting grief will never dissipate.
I have narrowed my own social life down to 3 or 4 very close girlfriends, and my own mother. While my therapist, and the short list of those I am close with - are incredibly supportive, they don't know what it is to experience what I am.
I'm just looking to find others who do as I think it might help.
Thank you.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[By Still Water]

Hello,

     My heart hurts for your sadness. As a mom, when faced with our son’s doctor’s words that he must be put into the hospital if he were to lose any more weight, at 12, I was terrified. Entrusting strangers to our minor children’s care is so emotionally difficult. Excruciating.
     I have found this forum to be such a comfort and help. For me, a big part of what makes parenting a BPD child so wracking is the inability for our peers to understand; it causes us to be so cautious opening up to some people. Some peers - who believe that stellar parenting manufactures high-achieving kids - will judge. Therefore, the burden we carry can be that much more, without fellow sojourners.