can I borrow this ? I hate her. She isnt nice.
Be yourself its all we have.
“I embrace my Shadow self, Shadows give depth and dimension to my life. I believe in embracing my duality, in learning to let darkness and light, peacefully co-exist, as illumination.”
~ Jaeda DeWalt
"Filling the conscious mind with ideal conceptions is a characteristic of western theosophy but not the confrontation with the shadow and the world of darkness. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious".
~ Carl G. Jung
It's my life and pain to find a way to absolve. At the end of the working day each go home to their own other roles ans carry their own issues. Do i hate her? Not entirely. Which makes it all. The more difficult. I have compassion for the illness and persuaded that it played a variable in her behaviour. I put on the scale the kind and fun loving times and can't 'hate' the whole person, mask or not. But i have terrible memories and they involve her abuse and they are not entirely resolved. Neither at the time Bevause i might even in that moment clocked on that showing my anger {as I've done a modicum here} would have been supplying her. Why else would you phone your partner whist having sex with someone else but to get a very antagonistic reaction. I didnt but the volume of the negative energy had no place to go but internalised.
It didn't matter everything positive since it got carried, it made me.distrust forever. Her apologies i didn't believe and even if i did would not have made a difference.
Legal. All i can say in practical sense is i feel quite a bit better after doing so. You'll know yourself sometimes litigation is not about money but principle and seeking redress for a claim of being wronged. We probably all have our own ways and thankfully i discovered mines involves sounding off a bit and i feel better for it. 5 years ago belated , 20 miles away from her and does no harm. A controlled explosion.