Left for the night

[Ozzie101]

Yes. That was part of our conversation yesterday.

[formflier]

He’s said before that I make him feel ashamed about drinking. 

How often does he say this? 

How did you respond at the time?

If he says this often, we need to prep for the next time.  He is handing responsibility for his shame to you...vice dealing with it.

Here is the thing.  He should be ashamed of his drinking.

So..?

Best,

FF

[Ozzie101]

Not often. Only when the drinking issue comes up as a problem.

He knows I’ve said many times I don’t judge people for drinking. (Even before his drinking became a problem I was open about why I don’t do it and my feelings about it.) My problem with his drinking is what happens when he does it. And with the lying and secrecy.

That’s what I’ve told him. My issue is with the behavior and its effect on me/us.