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[Iguamama]

Hi,
I'm looking forward to participating and learning but want to be sure I'm in the right place. My daughter is 32, a veteran and has a son who just turned one. She has dealt with BPD for years, and has benefited from DBT.  She moved to a new state, found out she was pregnant right before the shutdown, the relationship was fairly new, and the resulting stressors have taken a toll. She is not feeling able to regulate. She has been on a waiting list for a year and a half for a local DBT program.

Her significant other is also struggling with his alcohol use.

My husband and I are spending 4-5 days a month with them to help out with the baby, etc. It's difficult for me to understand how I can help her in her new role.

I'm sure there is plenty to read here!

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Welcome and it seems you already are helping her.  Just being supportive is a help. Yes, indeed, there is plenty to read  here to find out more about BPD , there is even a library here on suggested readings. We are glad you added us to your own network of support.