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CPS communicated to me they would categorize our child as high-risk if the false allegations continue. I've gotten two unfounded and one not established categorizations so far.
Has anybody gotten CPS to step in when it comes to false allegations and the damage they do to the child?
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The specific guidelines and policies vary a bit between jurisdictions and states. I recall back in 2005 I called my CPS and twice the ladies asked whether the incidents had been focused on my preschooler. I had to answer that she had been berating and disparaging me but he was exposed to the incidents. (I remember him hiding behind the couch, another time cringing underneath a table and another time lying prone on the floor.) Both times they told me to call back when she was ranting and raging at him.
So my state evidently allowed exposure to DV but not when it morphed into child abuse territory. The bar is rather high for it to be "actionable".
There was an allegation I learned about that I was told was closed without any details whatsoever, many others that they later closed and one that they interviewed both me and my son who was by then at school in kindergarten. Never more than "unsubstantiated". In my experience it's hard to get the investigators to confirm "unfounded" which is legalese for "liar".
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For many years in different jobs I held, I was a mandated reporter for CPS. In my experience, CPS does not keep its employees because few people can take the stress of having to work so directly and so intensely with child abuse as the work at CPS entails. Over and over again, I found myself working with new employees who lacked the experience to do their jobs properly. Eventually I found an employee who had worked at CPS for years and I called her directly whenever I had a case, and got good results. You can always ask to speak with a supervisor, and if that supervisor does not seem to be competent you can ask to speak with the person who supervises him/her. I think the best strategy is to ask around and find out who are the employees that do the best work at CPS in your area. There are plenty of mandated reporters, which include anybody who works directly with children, who might be able to give you some recommendations to who you might want to speak with at CPS. My experience with CPS is after too many unfounded accusations of child abuse, they don't do much about the complaints, just the minimum they are required to do. I realize it is traumatizing for your child to be interviewed about child abuse every time there is a report.
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CE reported BPD to CPS for DV. Let's see if CPS act...
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I worked in the ER for many years and had many dealings with CPS. Zachira is right to say that the experience and quality of workers varies greatly. Also, many services are overwhelmed with demands—covid doesn’t help—may not be able to give each case the attention it deserves, and so may tend to make hasty judgements. Sad, but true.
Z’s advice is good. Try to talk directly with someone competent and experienced enough to be able to listen. An seasoned CPS worker will know about false reporting and will realize they need to do more investigating, but don’t expect them to understand BPD.
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