pwBPD cannot give what they don't have

[Family Court Strategies: When Your Partner Has BPD OR NPD Traits.]

From Understanding the Borderline Mother, Christine says in reference to trust and a stable sense of self, BPDs "cannot give what they do not have."

What other qualities does a pwBPD lack you think they have a hard time teaching their children?

[BigOof]

From Understanding the Borderline Mother, Christine says in reference to trust and a stable sense of self, BPDs "cannot give what they do not have."

What other qualities does a pwBPD lack you think they have a hard time teaching their children?

[Turkish]

This might be am excellent topic for the PSI board to hear from children of pwBPD.

[BigOof]

Thanks, Turkish. I'll repost there.

[Couscous]

They make up for what they don’t have with what they do have: the power to manipulate and control due to extreme maternal separation anxiety. I just learned that there is a term for this: Parental psychological control.

Here are two studies on the negative impact that parental psychological control has on adolescents:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6388244/

https://selfdeterminationtheory.org/SDT/documents/2006_SoenensVansteenkisteDuriezGoossens_JRA.pdf

Edited to correct second link.

[BigOof]

Couscous, your response is so funny because there's a lot of truth in it.