Job loss — year is NOT off to a good start

[Ozzie101]

Yesterday, H lost his job, very much out of the blue. The boss waited until he had finished helping with all the year-end close work before telling him. She told him his work has been perfect but they’re going in a different direction (sounds like they’re going to outsource it). Early in this job, he had some troubles working with a couple of people but those problems were quickly worked out months ago and they became close friends . The boss, on the other hand, is a bit of a problem and is pretty much hated by the whole office. Anyway, several coworkers called last night, angry about it and giving support, which I think helped him. Apparently, one of them told the boss to her face that she was wrong and making a big mistake.

This is the second job he’s lost in two years, though from what I can tell, this time didn’t have anything to do with misbehavior on his part. We both work from home and I could hear a lot of his work calls and he sounded polite, professional and friendly.

Obviously, this is a blow for him. Another rejection. Another abandonment. Fear of the unknown. Embarrassment for “failure.” I’m trying to offer support and validation.

But inside, I feel sick and constantly on the verge of tears. I just fear how this will set him off-kilter. (On top of some stressful stuff with SS11.) So far he seems mostly OK. Sad, but stable. I don’t think it will last.

Anyway, now everything is on my shoulders, financially, at a time when I’m struggling to learn a new job myself and already feel stressed and anxious.

All I know to do is encourage him as he looks for a new job and be supportive. He’s the one suffering the biggest blow. But I can’t help thinking about myself and being overwhelmed by fears and frustrations.

We’ve been through a lot in the last three years and it was starting to look like we might get a little break.

[Cat Familiar]

So sorry.    That he was offered support by his coworkers is a very good sign. Really unfortunate development. 

[GaGrl]

I'm so sorry. 

Was he given a decent severance package?

[Ozzie101]

One month. The last job gave him three months, which was a nice cushion. The market is good for job-seekers right now and he has marketable skills (accounting, finance, HR), so hopefully it won’t take long to find something new.

[kells76]

That's so stressful. I'm glad he got "on your side" vibes from coworkers. It may be rough for a bit but as you say, the job market is really good. Fingers crossed he can let go and move forward.

[SinisterComplex]

Yesterday, H lost his job, very much out of the blue. The boss waited until he had finished helping with all the year-end close work before telling him. She told him his work has been perfect but they’re going in a different direction (sounds like they’re going to outsource it). Early in this job, he had some troubles working with a couple of people but those problems were quickly worked out months ago and they became close friends . The boss, on the other hand, is a bit of a problem and is pretty much hated by the whole office. Anyway, several coworkers called last night, angry about it and giving support, which I think helped him. Apparently, one of them told the boss to her face that she was wrong and making a big mistake.

This is the second job he’s lost in two years, though from what I can tell, this time didn’t have anything to do with misbehavior on his part. We both work from home and I could hear a lot of his work calls and he sounded polite, professional and friendly.

Obviously, this is a blow for him. Another rejection. Another abandonment. Fear of the unknown. Embarrassment for “failure.” I’m trying to offer support and validation.

But inside, I feel sick and constantly on the verge of tears. I just fear how this will set him off-kilter. (On top of some stressful stuff with SS11.) So far he seems mostly OK. Sad, but stable. I don’t think it will last.

Anyway, now everything is on my shoulders, financially, at a time when I’m struggling to learn a new job myself and already feel stressed and anxious.

All I know to do is encourage him as he looks for a new job and be supportive. He’s the one suffering the biggest blow. But I can’t help thinking about myself and being overwhelmed by fears and frustrations.

We’ve been through a lot in the last three years and it was starting to look like we might get a little break.

Just offering my support...You will get through this and hopefully a new and better opportunity will come along for him through all of this. I know all too well this situation. Ive been kicked in the nuts and hit rock bottom and then I just made things happen. Your support will hopefully help spur him onto greener pastures. My best to you Ozzie.

Cheers and best wishes!

-SC-

[CoherentMoose]

Ouch!  Hope a silver lining appears...and soon!  Good luck.  CoMo