Dangerous and/or reckless behavior

[rainbow connecti]

my adult daughter has quiet bpd. she's not normally reckless or dangerous with her behavior but when she does it's scary

most of her dangerous behaviors aren't life threatening but she can't currently work and I don't make enough money to cover mistakes

I'm really scared that she'll make costly mistakes and then her guilt over us leaning closer to homelessness will cause her to spiral further

I also struggle with balancing, letting her know what I need with not saying things that make her spiral more

and I'm even more scared that she'll make a choice that she can't recover from and I'll lose her permanently

that being said, she's super compliant and courageous about being healthy

I hate that her life is so hard

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Rev]

Hi Rainbow -

Welcome!  I have this standard line when I say "hi" for the first time. Sorry you are here. Happy you have found us.  Hope this resonates.

You will find, I hope, lot's of wisdom here. And you will find no judgement.  Each of us has a story and each of us is really hoping for the best for each of us. 

You haven't asked any questions per se and instead you have drawn a picture - one that resonates with me. My daughter has a bi-polar condition that causes her to become very impulsive in her manic stages. I find that very stressful if I dwell on it too much. Finding coping strategies can be a challenge for me. What about you? 

Also, I'd invite you to scope out the sight. There are articles and pieces of advice and tools.  Sometimes that jogs the mind and helps us to focus on tending to the things at hand.

Reach out any time.

In the meantime - Stay safe. Be well. Hang in there.

Rev

[SinisterComplex]

my adult daughter has quiet bpd. she's not normally reckless or dangerous with her behavior but when she does it's scary

most of her dangerous behaviors aren't life threatening but she can't currently work and I don't make enough money to cover mistakes

I'm really scared that she'll make costly mistakes and then her guilt over us leaning closer to homelessness will cause her to spiral further

I also struggle with balancing, letting her know what I need with not saying things that make her spiral more

and I'm even more scared that she'll make a choice that she can't recover from and I'll lose her permanently

that being said, she's super compliant and courageous about being healthy

I hate that her life is so hard

Rainbow I will join my teammate here in wishing you well and saying welcome.  . Happy you have found us. You will learn quickly that this resource is truly like a family. We all understand here that the struggle is real.

Please feel free to share as much or as little as you are comfortable with. In saying that, what kinds of questions do you have for us? What are your goals here? Sorry to be cliche, but essentially help us help you. Take your time. Please be kind to you and truly take care of yourself.

Cheers and best wishes!

-SC-