My son has eupd

[Dizzyrascal]

Had to ask my son to leave last night due to his behaviour he has bpb he is prescribed mirtazapine not sure if he is taking them he has lost lots of weight and is aggressive and breaks things around the house when I am not there when confronted about this he Denys all knowledge and says it was me I have depression myself and find it impossible to have him live with me long term homeless shelters won’t take him in due to his behaviour his go said there is no more he can do and the adult mental health team refused to asses him if he gets arrested he is released back onto the streets he will not engage with authorities last time he was sleeping rough he got beaten up that’s why I had him back home it’s cold outside I have been up all night worrying please what can I do

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

Hi Dizzyrascal
I haven't been able to access bpdfamily for a while - not sure why, the computer just wouldn't let me.

But I was thinking of you and your situation during that time, and now glad I am back.

I just can't say how sad I feel for you and your situation. It seems like your son has burned bridges everywhere and you are left with nowhere to turn, no-one to turn to. It must feel so desperate. And the cold makes it so much worse.

When my dd was losing weight - lots of weight - and smashing walls etc here, she was using ice. She would be sort of okay, then start to withdraw and she turned into a monster.

I suppose the mental health people won't assess him because of his behaviour? And he is not at the point of being admitted without his consent?

I wonder if there is anyone, any group that you can turn to now to help you share this awful load that you have, and someone you can perhaps look at options in your area?

In my darkest times - the nights when dd was on the streets, or not on the streets but still getting bashed, I forced myself to 'let go' by talking to myself, going over everything that had been tried - and then sending loving thoughts in my mind.

I hope you can find some support from someone to get through this time. I hope you can keep posting - just so you know you are not alone.