Realization that my son exhibits BPD traits

[Elizabeth Ann]

I have recently come the realization that my 37 year old son has been exhibiting BDP traits since adolescence.  The last few years have been strained.  We live 2 hours apart and we see each other less and less but when we do talk its more volatile than ever.  I miss my grandchildren very much and I miss my son from when he is not under stress and acts "normal".  I have recently read "Stop Walking on Eggshells" and "The Essential Family Guide to BPD".  At first I felt relieved to know that there is actually something wrong and that I am not going crazy, but now that the realization is sinking in, I am feeling grief and anger about the whole thing.  I am worried for the well being of my grandchildren.  I have found a therapist who I believe understands BPD and I am hopeful that I will at least get the help and support that I need and maybe even encourage my son to get help. 

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[By Still Water]

Hello and welcome, Elizabeth Ann,
    Our adult son has uBPD, also. We do go through a grief stage. I’m glad you’re seeking counseling; it is a less lonely road, that way.