I saw my adult daughter for first time in a year today

[weezer]

                          Hello , 
                                        I actually saw my daughter today, it was by accident ( or by a angel helping)  husband and I were watching my 4 yr old grand child this afternoon, took her to a park which is close by to where my daughter lives. On the way out of the park we drove past her house, I said wouldn't it be great if she or her husband were outside when we went past,
well her husband happened to be in the driveway, my grand daughter shouted to  Uncle , he has a puppy now and she wanted to visit .She shot out of the car and said where is puppy, he motioned to around back. I asked if I could also go to the back and he said, well I really do not know that answer but I have to leave to pick up something. I stood on the front lawn for about 5 min, then I went around the back of her house, she was sitting in a screened in porch with her dogs, playing with our grand daughter, I peeked through the screen and said oh the puppy looks so nice and said hello to the older dog, he is deaf she said about the older dog, oh dear I wish I could pet him, can I?  she shook head yes. I will say she was not friendly, rather cold, did not look at me, but I sat nearby petting the older dog. When she was not looking, I looked at her, cking her body weight, she would ask the 4 yr about what she liked about the dogs, these BPD are very very loving toward their pets, has anyone noticed this? would be lovely if she felt like toward her family, but their pets, very much so. All in all perhaps 15 min of a visit if you want to call it that, but after not seeing or speaking with her for over a year, it  made my day,    When we left I said good bye, she said bye back (  it was a cool good bye but responded never the less, she spoke)
         

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

So happy for you weezer! You have this to hold on to now and hopefully it will not be too long before another opportunity presents!