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[SadieSula]

Just dipping my toe in here. My child received a BPD diagnosis on Monday. They’re 15 and currently in a residential treatment center but will be coming home within a few weeks. We are terrified and so sad. My husband is so angry at my child that I’m worried he will sabotage any progress that’s made, setting my child up for failure.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

Hi SadieSula and welcome to BPD family. You have already been through a great deal to be at this point in time. It is frightening and sad - just as you say.

It is encouraging that your dd is in residential treatment at the moment and will be so for a few weeks. She is young to be diagnosed with BPD and hopefully getting help at this stage will be a benefit.

When my dd was 15 I really had no idea much about BPD. Life was chaotic but I kept thinking this would improve - I had a range of emotions and sought out various medical professionals, but I had no idea about this illness.

You will be anxious over these coming weeks, but could I suggest that you use this time to find out as much as you can about this illness. I think the most important thing to focus on is whether you and your husband can come to be on the same page as you deal with this.

There is a lot to be gained by reading the information and posts here and talking to the professionals involved with your daughter. Would your husband read some of the posts here?

BPD is a very difficult illness to understand. Most of my dd's friends - or ex-friends don't believe she has any illness at all - and this in spite of being professionally diagnosed years ago.

Do you think you have an understanding of BPD at this point in time? I hope you have some energy left after what you have been through already to use this time to help you prepare.

The best part of coming here is that you get to know that others are going through similar things  - and you are not alone.