https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=354759.0Coming from this thread on my situation. Briefly, I am in a middle of a divorce with my exwife who is on bipolar meds. But I believe she is more borderline than bipolar based on my experience with her. Bipolar is just the suspicions and the diagnoses that she was given by our marriage counselor and our psychiatrist (we share the same psychiatrist), my marriage counselor had to call our psychiatrist to warn her about my wife's behavior the last couple months and thus, tpsychi prescribe her bipolar meds because she was going through mania. They will continue monitor her as of now but BPD has been mentioned to me as a possibility or a combination of both.
Anyhow, my situation is still ongoing and I am living out the rest of the least with the ex wife. It appears, I may be her favorite person as she shares alot of personal information with me including who she is dating and I am getting split often.
The affair partner loved bomb her to death with promises of buying a house and showing off a lot of $ which eventually led her to break it off with me a couple months ago (i knew she was in an affair with him before the breakoff)
Anyhow, i don't want to repeat too much of what happened in my original thread but felt like some context may be needed. Now that our divorce is processing, this guy has been on and off with her a few times. She rationalizes that he is "so busy", which is why he rarely sees her but calls her up middle of the night. She was annoyed and they fought and broke off but now he is back in the picture again. Looks like he's just stringing her.
Based on his manipulation tactics, I suspect this guy may be a narcissist (im no dr) but his methods are pretty devious and he obviously lacks empathy given he destroyed our family and then found ways to distance my ex wife after the fact.
I'm concerned for my son as I should be getting 50/50 with exwife. And this affair partner is back with her again but still distance because "so busy" but is love bombing her again about buying a big house...cant wait to get his new car and take her for a ride this coming summer when he's "less busy". A lot of future promises he makes and she continues to fall for it.
Anyway, I am detached and dont care but I am listening to her stories in protection of my son. I've been watching youtube videos and reading about BPD + narcissistic relationships and it is SCARING me. In the event my ex wife does move in with this guy and then has my boy 50% of the time, what should i be worried about?
Do you guys have any knowledge/background regarding this type of couple and what I may have to deal with in terms of co-parenting my boy with that kind of toxic relationship? I am literally hoping my wife gets so occupied in that relationship that she will leave my boy with me most of the time or altogether, but that's too hopeful. Thanks in adv for any replies!