I have tried setting boundaries in many ways, with therapists, etc. for years with BPDh's abuse.
(We have six kids.)
It has helped to a certain extent, but recently, he relapsed into his old abusive behavior.
I need to report him to child services, but he threatens to report me in return.
I do not abuse him or the children, obviously, but he has managed to convince some of my family members and some of the kids' therapists/teachers that my behavior is dysfunctional, and I am afraid the truth will be obscured with his charm, exaggerations, and aggressive lying.
What do I do?