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[probablekitten]

Hi. This is my first time posting. I am here because I am feeling at the end of my rope. My adult daughter has been back living at home since May. She has a BPD diagnosis and is in therapy but doesn't like her antidepressants so stopped taking them. The blow up rages are just getting so hard to deal with. I don't know how much more I can deal with. I feel so helpless.

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Sancho]

Hi probablykitten and welcome here. I have the same situation - ie adult dd with bpd living in the house. She has been so for the past 3 years or so after many years of being here and there - mostly there.

It is so hard and intense. I notice my body tightens when dd comes out of her room. I can tell by her steps whether or not she is going to rant at me about something.

My dd is the same re her antidepressants. I found she was better when she took them - it seemed to lift the bar higher on what would trigger her anger etc - but she doesn't take them. Not in therapy so that is a bonus for your dd. Mine really can't keep an appointment - I think she has adhd as well and would benefit from treatment for that.

I am not sure I can offer helpful advice. I get through each day and interact with dd as little as possible. She resents that, and I don't like it that much either, but whenever I try to just say anything normal - whew! off she goes!

Coming here is my big help. Reading others' posts is the way I know I am not alone - that others understand this extraordinary situation we are in.

Can you see a future where your dd moves out and lives independently again? I would cope better if I could see that pathway, but I can't.

Thank you for posting. People being prepared to post is what keeps the rest of us going - knowing we are not alone.