My uhwBPD’s childish behavior is infuriating.

[JazzSinger]

While I am pleased that my husband wuBPD hasn’t had an outburst since December, his incessant, childish behaviors are extremely irritating.   

On occasion, he “jokingly” wears a campaign hat of a candidate I don’t like.  He’d never wear it in public - he bought it and wears it solely to irritate me.   I wouldn’t care if I loved the candidate.   Following me around with the cap on his head, teasing me, and not letting up, even when I ignore him, is maddening! This man is a senior citizen — not a toddler.

Sometimes I swat him out of the way. He tells me I have no sense of humor.  I tell him that I do, but I’m an adult.  Then he tells me I’m old. He asks me to put the hat on my head, so he can take a picture and send it to my friends.  I refuse.  He takes pictures of himself with the hat on. After a while, I don’t even laugh. Because he’s not a toddler that I’d be happy to humor.  And he does it too much.    I really don’t need this daily teasing.  So I’m thinking…Now, I have to leave the house and take a walk, when he starts with the hat.  I know he’s looking to get a rise out of me, so we can fight.  I don’t want to! He sometimes throws in irritating political slogans. But I  just want peace.  So I have to walk out of my own home to get it, I guess.  Because otherwise, it’s only a matter of time before  it rises to the level of a shouting match.  I can only take so much. 


He can be an incredible nuisance.  I wonder if there’s another way to handle this, other than walking out?

I’m in my 70’s.  Can’t start a new life, but would love to live in peace, as much as possible, considering his mental illness. I see dementia creeping in also. 

I’m stumped.