Our ubpd estranged kidult appropriated/stole my own story of child sex abuse

[MsMisunderstood]

Thank you for your time and interest

Our objective is to better understand the struggles our child faces and to learn the skills to improve our relationship and provide a supportive environment and also improve on our own emotional responses, attitudes and effectiveness as a family leaders

[Swimmy55]

Hi and welcome,
 If you don't mind , could you write a bit more as you are comfortable?

[Sancho]

HiMsMisunderstood
I just wanted to say that my DD has told everyone a story of her being pimped. The details are exactly what was in the news a great deal at some point in time. My DD's Borderline condition has dwelt on this until it became her story - which it is not - but she really believes it.

It's that 'border' between reality and psychosis that gets crossed over and no facts can convince them otherwise.

Going from the title of your post, your situation must be devastating. The trauma of your experience is not something that can be put aside or moved on from easily. To have this being repeated as your DD's experience, is truly hard to bear.

Sending thoughts and I hope you can nurture yourself through this.

[Ourworld]

Dear Msmisunderstood,

I have been talking with my daughter’s ex-husband, which until she left him a year ago I did not even realize she even had a problem until he began telling me about some of her behaviors and beliefs (memories?).
She has estranged both of us.

While I never had any abuse, she has said things like saying ‘that I got an Audi when I lived in Germany because she liked them’, and has continually accused me of doing things because they were things she wanted! Of course this could not be furtherest from the truth; we never even talked about types of cars.

Thankfully, she does not know (because I recently found out) that I almost died at age 3, or she would probably claim something like that as well. So I can somewhat empathize with you when you mentioned that your daughter is claiming sexual abuse similar to something that happened to you. I know that whatever happened to you hurt immensely and is very private.

Try and realize her emotion of wanting to be like you, and realize that in her dementia she is not necessarily trying to be-little what you went through.

I hope that helps you contend with this intensively hurtful action, do your best to understand that it is not something ‘high-jacked’, but is something she knew that happened to you and that she is actually trying to gain sympathy.

This BPD is so sad where they live between reality and a made up world.

I wish you healing from your pain, OurWorld