WHO SHOULD POST ON THIS BOARD? - Learning

[Before you can make things better, you have to stop making them worse...]

Recovering and Learning From a Relationship Breakup

Summary: The Learning aspect of this board is a place to come after the anxiety and wounds are expressed, to learn about relationships, human nature, the difference between dysfunction and normal relationship difficulties, and how to make better choices. This is also a place for relationship postmortems, divorce recovery and personal inventory as well as a place to talk about new beginnings and dating.

Audience: Members that been spurned or have evaluated the emotional health of their relationship and have decided that it is best to detach and move on.

Objective: "Learning" is a place to come after the anxiety and wounds are expressed, to learn about relationships, human nature, the difference between dysfunction and normal relationship difficulties, and how to make better choices.

General Approach: Many members have had more than one relationship with someone with BPD before coming here, many leave and have another, many have had a hard time with relationship break-ups in general, and many develop a paranoia about dating after these experiences that ruin future relationships. "Learning" is a place to come after the anxiety and wounds are expressed, to learn about relationships, human nature, the difference between dysfunction and normal relationship difficulties, and how to make better choices.

Detachment is a multistage process that includes :

• Acknowledgement
• Self-inquiry
• Processing
• Creative Action
• Freedom

This board is about Processing, Creative Action, and Freedom.

LESSONS

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Recovering and Learning From a Relationship Breakup

Summary: The Learning aspect of this board is a place to come after the anxiety and wounds are expressed, to learn about relationships, human nature, the difference between dysfunction and normal relationship difficulties, and how to make better choices. This is also a place for relationship postmortems, divorce recovery and personal inventory as well as a place to talk about new beginnings and dating.

Audience: Members that been spurned or have evaluated the emotional health of their relationship and have decided that it is best to detach and move on.

Objective: "Learning" is a place to come after the anxiety and wounds are expressed, to learn about relationships, human nature, the difference between dysfunction and normal relationship difficulties, and how to make better choices.

General Approach: Many members have had more than one relationship with someone with BPD before coming here, many leave and have another, many have had a hard time with relationship break-ups in general, and many develop a paranoia about dating after these experiences that ruin future relationships. "Learning" is a place to come after the anxiety and wounds are expressed, to learn about relationships, human nature, the difference between dysfunction and normal relationship difficulties, and how to make better choices.

Detachment is a multistage process that includes :

• Acknowledgement
• Self-inquiry
• Processing
• Creative Action
• Freedom

This board is about Processing, Creative Action, and Freedom.

LESSONS

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BOARD DIRECTORY

This is a support community for the family and relationship partners of individuals with borderline personality disorder traits (BPD). Our collective mission is improving member lifestyle and emotional well being through compassionate support and education.KEY
Child with BPD traits [7 boards]
Family member or inlaws with BPD traits [7 boards]
Relationship partner with BPD traits [8 boards]
Relationship partner with traits, relationship ended [10 boards]
Help Desk + Knowledgebase        
Frequently asked questions, how-to instructions, trouble shooting and questions about the community.
Click Here for Frequently Asked Questions      Click Here to Go to BoardRomantic Relationship: Bettering a Relationship or Reversing a Breakup    
This Board is for romantic partners who are in a relationship or who have just broken up and are seeking to rekindle a relationship.
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Romantic Relationship: Conflicted or Just Tolerating It  
This board supports those who are tired of fixing and who are questioning their relationship future.
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Romantic Relationship: Detaching and Learning after a Failed Relationship  
This board is for members who are grieving the loss of a relationship and are trying to emotionally detach from their ex-partner. This is also board for members who are at a more advanced level, doing a relationship postmortem, and are ready to evaluate their own emotional health and behavior -  this requires a self-awareness deep dive.  
Click Here to See Board Charter - Detaching  |  Click Here to See Board Charter - Learning  |  Click Here to Go to Board

Family Law, Custody, Co-Parenting, Divorce    
This board is for members grappling with custody issues and discusses family court, co-parenting/parallel parenting, and parental alienation strategies.
Downloadable pamphlet: About Personality Disorders and the Family courts
Click Here to See Board Charter      Click Here to Go to BoardParent, Sibling, or Inlaw Suffering from BPD  
This board is for adult children of a Borderline parent, or family members of someone with BPD.
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Son or Daughter Suffering from BPD  
This board provides support for parents of children who suffer from BPD.  It follows the basic principles of the Family Connections program developed by the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder (NEABPD).  
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Library: Tools and Skills Workshops        
This is a skills library containing tools for relationship building, coping and self-discovery. This board is not for questions related to a specific person in your life.  
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Library: Psychology questions and answers        
This board is for general questions about BPD and other personality disorders, trait definitions, related diagnostics, management and care. Topics should be formatted as a question. This board is not for questions related to a specific person in your life.  
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Library: Book Club, previews and discussions        
This is a library of book discussions, reviews and recommendations. This board is not for questions related to a specific person in your life.  
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Library: Video, Audio and PDFs        
This board contains articles and member reviews of articles for the family and relationship partners of individuals with BPD.  This board is not for questions related to a specific person in your life.  
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Library: Content to critique for possible feature articles          
Articles from other websites for critique and discussion. The best authors are often interviewed or commissioned for bpdfamily articles. This board is not for questions related to a specific person in your life.
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Library: bpdfamily research surveys      
Member surveys for participation and review/learning. This board is not for questions related to a specific person in your life.
Click Here to Go to BoardStump the Experts (Off topic)  
Off topic board for member fellowship.
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