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THE PSYCHOLOGY OF PERSONALITY DISORDERS
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Author Topic: What do you call empathy , when the intention behind is to manipulate?  (Read 1332 times)
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« on: November 04, 2015, 04:35:48 PM »

So the definition of empathy is something similar to put you the other shoes, feel his feelings, feel with him.

But I endured my ex to have "empathy" too, she always read my feelings , and extreme good, but with the intention to have control and manipulate. What do you call that "bad intention" type of empathy?
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« Reply #1 on: November 05, 2015, 08:31:22 PM »

I would like to know, too. My mother has a very scary ability to read minds and feelings and interprets this as empathy. But it has nothing to do with empathy as it is only done to help herself by controlling and manipulating the people closest to her.
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« Reply #2 on: November 06, 2015, 02:59:05 PM »

intellectual and emotional awareness and understanding of another person's thoughts, feelings, and behavior, even those that are distressing and disturbing. Empathy emphasizes understanding;


sympathy emphasizes sharing of another person's feelings and experiences.


There are  two different labels here!, yet my ex fully  understood my inner feeling in contrast to hers, so my position could be established.
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