I'd like to know too.
I honestly have no real idea since it seems so contradictory, but this is why I ask:
My ex constantly talks about how he deserves "the job" ... "the relationship" ... "the money" ... "the body" ... "the education" ... "the house" ... "the location" ... Anything and everything that others understand to require hard work and delayed gratification, he thinks he deserves YESTERDAY, without any real idea of how to achieve that goal.
He doesn't have a professional job, but he works within a professional organization, so he never states what he does within that organization unless someone presses him for it. Once they find out, he immediately thinks they're judging him for it and hates them.
He thinks he has great talent in a particular area, but, while he's good, he's simply not professional material, and never will be. He simply doesn't put in the work or have the drive to learn about and from those who came before him.
He goes after mates, dates, and friends who have something to offer him: money, rides, erotic capital, social capital, unconditional validation despite sometimes criminal/unethical behaviors -- he wants his mates, dates, and friends to be everything he's not. He has no problem discarding them when they've given him something to temporarily satiate his need.
Diagnosed with sex addiction, he has raped (yes, raped) a number of people he desires sexually because they're what he is not but desires to be. This gives him sick validation. He'll wait until someone is somehow incapacitated and take advantage. That's rape, folks. They're always people who wouldn't ordinarily consent, but he justifies his behavior by saying their body language during the act showed they loved it.
Projects his sexuality onto others. If he's feeling hetero, everyone is hetero. If he's feeling gay, everyone is gay. If he's feeling bi, everyone is bi. If he's feeling non-monogamous, then monogamy is unnatural.
Anyone who speaks out against his behaviors or rejects his advances is split black as coal, and it's never his fault. He's been fired from every job he's ever had (none of them "good" jobs -- he can't get one of those). As soon as someone says something, or he perceives that they've said something, that isn't 100% PC or positive, he lashes out, thinking they're speaking against him.
He has been diagnosed with body dysmorphia, but he actually loves his body as much as he hates it, and says things like he's proud that he can give sexual pleasure to men and women.
Constantly talks about how the place where he lives -- the place he had to return to when things didn't work out -- is full of rednecks, uneducated bigots, etc. etc. etc., acting like he's above them. At times, he even talks about his family in this way.
He ruuuuuns to mommy every time he wants something or things don't work out, and she gives him whatever she can. This includes letting him live with her as an adult with no expectation of contributing to expenses. The rest of his family, when he does something stupid or bad, and call him out on it, are shunned. Until he needs something, particularly validation, in an environment with little other supply. Then he loves them again and buys little gifts and things to get back on their good side. Otherwise, silent treatment.
Oh, and with me? He pretended to have a reeeeally bad memory (to help him with his lies), but when I was split black and really called him out, his memory was phenomenal. He remembered details of things I had said in passing and immediately used those to gaslight me.