Those who are more of a "taker" than a "giver" are more apt to disappear.
I think those who have been rescuers in their past and/or are recovering from "the disease to please" can lose more friendships, when they set healthy boundaries.
Can you share what some of your new personal requirements for friendship are?
Thanks for the response! I feel like I have had a large number of takers as friends in my past. I have always seemed to take the role as someone who will support or comfort as if parenting.
Recently, I have made it a priority to not pretend I am okay with certain behavior. I have started discussing more openly when I am unhappy with behavior, which is really big for me. More specifically, I have stopped putting time into people who do not put time into me as well, and I have noticed once they notice I am no longer putting time into them they freak out.
I can go into more detail if you would like. Overall, I feel like I am trying to find my way into healthier boundaries and relationships while trying not to have a black and white view I was raised with (BPD mother).