Your 2nd point is very interesting kells. I don’t know really how I would react depending on what she would say. Whether it’s the
Nice each out the rage reach out or just wanting to make sure I’m still around reach out. As far as definitive no contact I’m saying at least 30 days from today barring any necessary financial communications
Hello pipefitter! I am a proponent of having a `game-plan`! In my case, it helped me move away from reacting, and towards choosing, intentionally, my responses.
You make a good point in bringing up that what you do depends on what she says. Certainly, you cannot account for every possible way she may reach out. However, you can instead focus on what
is in your control : the
way you want to respond. What I mean is, whether she rages, is doing a check in, or wants to get back together, how would you describe the version of you that responds to her?
For example, I imagined myself taking a moment to gather myself (and therefore not be reactive!), being calm, seeking advice from a trusted friend, being mature, being understanding, choosing my own peace first, and letting go.
In that way, you can prepare yourself for all different kinds of scenarios by choosing your underlying approach.