just when it was safe

[Depression = 72% of members]

well I just posted a few days ago how NC was really working and then her she comes again. It was nothing towrds me but she was in a very car accident, miracle i diddt kill her but she had a friend contact me and let me know. she felt like I would have wanted to know. I didnt. but anyway she was not hurt. The next day I get texts from her about every move shes making, she leaving hospital, she home, sending me pictures and then after about 4 hours of this and then nothing.

of course this did get under my skin a bit but it has not set me back totaly either. BUt I wont lie and say it didnt bother me.

[mitchell16]

well I just posted a few days ago how NC was really working and then her she comes again. It was nothing towrds me but she was in a very car accident, miracle i diddt kill her but she had a friend contact me and let me know. she felt like I would have wanted to know. I didnt. but anyway she was not hurt. The next day I get texts from her about every move shes making, she leaving hospital, she home, sending me pictures and then after about 4 hours of this and then nothing.

of course this did get under my skin a bit but it has not set me back totaly either. BUt I wont lie and say it didnt bother me.

[Pretty Woman]

Out of curiosity... .did she leave you or did you leave her?

I can see that very annoying either way. 

[frag1911]

Time to block her number... .but as I've learned, they work around that

[mitchell16]

yep she used a mutaul friend to contact me and let me know this.

[GreenMango]

Sometimes I think no contact isn't as effective as clearly communicating.  Something like I'm sorry to hear about your accident.  I'm glad you are okay.  Our relationship isnt healthy and I won't be contacting you anymore.  Please don't contact me.

Sometimes laying it out there helps. 

[GaGrl]

Another opportunity for drama.

[Lucky Jim]

Hey Mitchell, Those w/BPD have a quiver of arrows marked "FOG" and some arrows are for Fear, some for Obligation and others for Guilt.  It sounds like your Ex shot an arrow in your direction but it didn't pierce your shield, as far as I can tell.  Lucky Jim

[mitchell16]

Lucky Jim, no I didnt I was on shaking legs for a minute but ive gotten my balance back. She didnt text today but the dyaof after the accident she gave me a blow by blow of what she was doing then it just stopped. I havent haeard anything all day. so thats a good thing But I hate that after 4 months she still does this. If she had been really hurt or killed yes, I would have wanted to know but she was in hopsital one night and relaased.

[Ironmanrises]

Mitchell,

I can so understand how difficult it must have been for you to receive that text from her after this amount of time has elapsed. She was trying to get you to sooth her and jump in to save her. Why? Because she has returned to you plenty of times before successfully so of course she sends you that text with all the details. You stood your ground at least and didn't dive right back in like other times. That itself is progress my friend. Shows you are healing.

Hang in there buddy.