Dumped again like a pair of old jeans.

[Etuhu]

When/if she does initiate contact how do I show her i have changed? She said she did not trust me and that was the reason she walked out on me (I don't know why).

What do you mean by pit myself in front of her? Obviously I know where she lives but I can't just go and knock on the door, I have made that mistake before.

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[once removed]

remember, these things are a ways off. focus on the change itself first.

When/if she does initiate contact how do I show her i have changed?

you simply be safe, warm, inviting, light, upbeat, confident. its a subtle thing. you dont "show her youve changed" in one conversation, you just leave her feeling good about it and wanting more.

What do you mean by pit myself in front of her?

i dont mean it literally. what i mean is if you havent heard from her in another month or two (i would expect it to take about that long... .ive been in your situation, and finally heard from an ex after about three months) and you are still interested, you will need to do something. what that "something" is will very much depend. it could take the form of a direct or indirect reach out.

Meili mentioned social media. are the two of you friends on facebook? i dont know much about whatsapp, is it a format in which you can post pictures or share updates on your life or just a messenger?

[Etuhu]

I removed her from Messenger but she hasn't deleted me from Whatsapp. Maybe I should not have done that as I could of posted pictures of what I've been up to but I should need to make her jealous to love me, I got her back before by doing that and it just seemed fake.

I told her I deleted her as a friend as it would be too hurtful for me to see pictures of her with someone else.

[once removed]

I should need to make her jealous to love me, I got her back before by doing that and it just seemed fake.

you dont need to make her jealous, or play games, youre right.

but you asked how shed see that you had changed. thats what i meant by "putting yourself in front of her"... .if you were facebook friends for example, youre just living your life and updating like anyone else.

in terms of a light reach out, something like that could be worth considering further down the road.

[Harley Quinn]

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