My BPD hubby and I have been together for 11 years. In the last 6-8 months, we have had a very difficult time. Apparently I "crap on people's souls" and hold the title of the "most selfish narcissistic person on the planet." It's amazing that I have time for all this with my job as a fifth grade teacher too!
Anyway, hubby went on a rampage and pulled his paycheck out of our joint account now! He says "I'll make sure all the bills get paid!" You can sense my concern considering I have been the one to pay all the bill for the last 11 years. I explained to him that he can take over managing the joint account since we have so many automatic deductions from there. No. That is not good enough. Apparently he had already jumped the gun without talking to me about it. Of course!
Shortly after this tantrum, hubby had to be taken into the ER because he took too much of his medication (ambian and valium) and drank with it. I knew this would happen and voiced my concerns to his doctors months ago, but I am just a teacher... .what do I know. Ugh! Well hubby is in a AA program now and medication has been changed to hydroxyzine.
I tried to bring up the whole paycheck thing again yesterday to no avail. If anything, I started to see a relapse at just talking about it. So, does anyone have any suggestions as to how I should handle this. Keep in mind, we do have a 7 year old.