One thing that our lawyer and us are not happy about is that the judge basically ordered for all of us to come back to court next year. In order to further increase visitation he wants a psych eval done of the kids. Which means that BPDxw can restart her war of taking away all visitation. We were hoping that after this match we could call it good and be done with court.
A version of this happened in my case, too.
If you can, pick the person who does the psych eval. Or select three that have impeccable reputations, and allow your ex to select from the three. It might even be worth asking the Clerk of Court (or equivalent where you live) for a list of child psychologists most respected by the court. Reputation can go a long way in our cases.
In my case, the judge ordered we spend a year working with a parenting coordinator (child psychologist) and then come back. I was pissed! She ended up recommending more than what we thought possible, and was able to shine a lot of light on our situation.
It can feel like PTSD to return to court again and again My ex took me to court so many times the judge issues a gatekeeping order. I really feel your pain.
In the meantime, use this to your advantage. There is a lot of collective wisdom here about how to leverage what the judge is asking for.
What do you think a psych eval will reveal in your situation? Do you know what the process entails? I was surprised how kinda sloppy and messy and vague things were. We tightened up every possible point and were three steps ahead of N/BPDx so that he could not thwart the process. Or, if he did, he only thought he did