Today marks ninety days no contact and my ex wBPd and I happen to be at the same grocer this morning.
We didn’t really speak. He was talking to someone else and I was (became) on a mission, but as I walked by, he leaned out and told me it was great to see me. I kept walking although, my heart.
All my attraction to him came flooding back. It is so hard to accept that who he presents to be coexists with all the roller coaster traits of BPD.
Today, I miss him and am struggling not to imagine sharing times with him again. How it could be different. How we could do it better this time. The same old story that I have told myself failingly many, many times- but never with this gap of time between us.
It’s such a thief - BPD. I wish it weren’t so.
Uck. I so feel you on this one.
Not going to say more - cause I'm not thinking you need more "advice". Sometimes there's nothing more to say but "this ... really... sucks!"
I have not seen my ex for over a year and not actually spoken to her for 18 months. And yet, my divorce came through this week (finally!) and ... I had a similar reaction. I honestly don't know what I would do today if I sat in front of her. I don't want her back, but what she took, whether she "meant to" or not - I would like it back.
Yes... BPD and a relationship with someone who suffers from it, that steals something from you that you can replace, but never really get back.
Big hugs.
Rev