I was hurt when... .
... . you betrayed my loyalty to you and the trust that I had in you.
... . Said her performance wasn't up to par because it had been that long
... . you said that I didn't know how to speak properly to you because my tone was too calm when trying to have a rational discussion with you.
... . you resented the time that I spent with my daughter. Would text me with a crisis when she knew I was out with my daughter. I would offer to go round after, only to be told not to bother.
... . you chose to walk out on jobs.
... . you chose to not have me live with you because the house was "too crowded" wanted to move together but would not go looking at houses.
... . you walked out on our relationship with total disregard for how it would affect both of our lives or that of the children.
... . Highly critical because I had daughters mother as a friend on Facebook but had a long line of exes on her own. They would be blocked and unblocked when suited.
... . Highly critical that me and my daughters mother could behave like adults. Convinced there was something going on despite the fact she is in a stable 7 year relationship and all communication is transparent. I'm even friends with her bf because we share a common interest in our daughter. Felt judged by your own standards.
... . you took no time to grieve us and instead continued to get hot and heavy with my "replacement".
... . Ran away the second you found out I may have a life threatening illness.
... . you gave false hope that you might be coming back to me in order to keep me as your "backup plan". Used the words "Friends for now until I have had some time on my own to clear my head"
... . you cut off all intercourse with me and blamed it on medication, and not the secret that you were keeping.
... . you tell me that you love me and then promptly cut off all contact - the "silent treatment".
... . you asked for alone time to clear head and then jump into new relationship within the week.
... . you blocked me on facebook several times to hide from me your online activities forgetting we have mutual friends who were just as confused.
... . you expected me to place my own children 2nd to you.
... . you thought a BPD diagnosis and meds were enough of a cure.
... . you failed to fight for the love that you said that you had for me and for us.
... . Constant hint dropping about marriage more after sister got engaged, yet pushed away when I said that we should work towards stability before making doing that.
... . Accused me of many things I hadn't done but now I realise it's because you did them instead.
... . Ran from every other relationship you had ever been in. Confused me when you painted everybody black, more confused when you told me an ex turned up at a bar and poured a drink over you for no reason. Maybe he felt cheated too and just wanted answers. Maybe he caught you with his replacement.
... . Listening to your son on the first night I met him telling you not to screw this relationship up like all the others.
... . Telling me you had been single for 5 years, only to find out it was a different guy every 6 months then telling me anything 6 months or less doesn't count as a relationship.
... . Raging at me for taking a night out to myself after getting bad news because that's what partners do, after spending the last week giving me silent treatment, not answering text messages or the door and doing your own thing after getting bad news.
... . Telling me your ex called you a whore but you didn't know why.
... . Being critical me for only being out of a relationship for 18 months before we got together when you jump between them within a week.
... . Blaming a certain drug crisis on your son when you got caught out and almost lost the house. Would rather have had him go to jail than admit fault, despite his innocence. Called me to come over and then dropped the crisis on me and your son to sort out. Against my better judgement, I did it so the kids didn't suffer. Consoled your daughter as she sat weeping whilst you blamed everyone you could think of for "grassing you up" turned out all the people you thought it was were innocent.
... . Drink driving after a fight despite the offer of a taxi. Said it would be better for everyone if you ended up dead but had no thought to ruining someone elses life.
... . Driving around with no insurance and a cracked windscreen. I sorted the windscreen on the promise you would sort the insurance but you never did. No consideration for what happens to other drivers if you are involved in an accident. Very selfish.
The list is endless but very therapeutic In_n_Out
