Hi jmh Sorry to hear you're going through a pretty rough time right now, all the unknowing... .
How goes his plan to move out?
Does he have a place to go? Does he have a scheduled departure date? Have you given him a deadline?
Can you nail down the end of this current phase before you have to figure out what the next one looks like?
Grey Kitty raises a good point. Is his move-out being implemented, or is it in the talky-talk stage?
So he has not yet, but has decided, and I agree, that he should move out. We have realized that whatever we are doing is not working, and something has to change. After dumping me, he came to me, and said that he realized that we skipped the important phase of truly dating each other and moved right in with each other. He said that we should live separately and focus on rebuilding our friendship.
Sounds like your bf has given this a lot of thought and has come upon his own truth. Would you agree with this? Do you feel it was too much, too soon, moving in with each other?
Please stick around jmh, and continue to post your concerns. Even if we've not experienced the exact same scenario as yours, a lot of our feelings and expectations are a pretty close match. Enough, to offer quite a bit of support!
One little piece of advice... .
I don't know what to do anymore.
It's okay to not know what to do! Sometimes the best thing to do is just sit with that feeling of not knowing. Ew, it's hard. But with it brings peace and clarity.