Hello Morman,
Your story sure sounds familiar to me, Deeply devoted and in love with your spouse, willing and have done almost anything possible to make her happy or her life better. At some point you find yourself asking for something from her and she seems unwilling to help or hurt that you have even asked. You become hurt yourself as you know if the roles were reversed you would quickly fulfill her request 10X over with a huge smile on your face and a warm spot in your heart thinking how you made her day.
I also spent some time reading about the red pill on the rational male. My aha moment was when I read "true desire is never negotiated" My heart sunk thinking about all the times I tried extra hard to make her happy thinking she would have desire to reciprocate... .thats just not how life always work. I even posted on this board as I tried to implement some ideas with my wife, I called it got game? I have mixed feelings about the strategy and all of my eggs are now in our therapy basket.
https://bpdfamily.com/message_board/index.php?topic=315638.0;topicseenI am fairly new here too, my only advise is to improve communication. Imagio Dialogue is helping us greatly now but it took 15 therapy sessions to get her to open up and try.